Divorce brings about change in all aspects of life. One aspect that often isn’t completely realized until trying to reconcile finances is the need for additional income. When a family unit is living under the same roof and only paying one house payment, one gas bill, one electric bill, one internet bill, etc., the income from one person could theoretically meet all needs. Unfortunately, once a separation occurs and there are now two house payments, two gas bills, two electric bills, two internet bills, etc., one income might not cut it.
Reentering the job market after years of not working can be daunting to say the least. If you find yourself in this situation consider these tips as you forge ahead:
- Believe in yourself! Cliche and easier said than done, but valid advice nonetheless. If you have an inner dialogue that is fraught with fear and self doubt you are more likely to outwardly portray fear and self doubt. Sure, this is new and different, but you have overcome harder things than this! Doubt your doubts before you doubt yourself.
- Job hunt with a tiered approach. High school students approaching graduation are advised to apply to their “reach” universities/colleges, their 2nd choice universities/colleges and their fall back universities/colleges. Applying to jobs in a similar manner can help you broaden your horizon.
- Remember you are starting new! Just because you were in sales prior to having a family doesn’t mean sales is the only place you can work now. You are starting over fresh and you have a wonderful opportunity to reinvent yourself professionally. What are your dreams and ambitions? What is it you’ve always wanted to try but never dared? This is the perfect time to try it! Don’t limit yourself based on what you did “before”. Go back to school, learn a new trade, you could even become a lawyer! You may need to take a remedial job in the interim, but in the long run it will be worth it.
- Network, network, network. In this day and age we have access to all walks of life at all times of day and night thanks to social media. Put yourself out there, use your connections. People generally have a desire to help other people. If you let your friends, family, congregation members, neighbors, etc. know you are job hunting they will point you in the right direction.
- Don’t underestimate yourself. We all have a comfort level and an ability level, rarely are they the same level. While you may not be a master programmer, you certainly know how to work a computer. Truly consider your ability level before passing over a help wanted ad.
- Look to the future. Create an idea of what you would like your life to look like in 5 years, 10 year, 15 years. Stick to that idea but recognize it is not an overnight plan. There may be some steps ahead and some steps backwards as you move towards your plan. Keep the goal in sight and you will reach it in time.
At times when you may be feeling frustrated or discouraged, keep in mind these 10 things that require no additional skill or talent:
- Being on time
- Good work ethic
- Strong effort
- Positive body language
- Positive energy
- Good attitude
- Being teachable
- Doing extra
- Being prepared.
Move forward with faith in yourself, you’ve got this! As you are traversing your new path in life, don’t walk it alone. The Boca Raton Family Law Attorneys can assist you in every step of the divorce process. Call the Boca Raton Family Lawyers for a consultation